Frequently Asked Questions
Question: Where are you located?
Response: I am a full-time touring lady, which means my location frequently varies from day to day.
Please check my Calendar page for my current and upcoming destinations!
Question: Do I have to prepay or give you a deposit to get an appointment?
Response: No, you do not.
Let me say that again: NO PREPAYMENT OR DEPOSIT REQUIRED.
Question: What are your screening requirements?
Response: My Basic Screening Requirements
Your real full name (First, Middle, Last)
City & State on your ID
Mobile Phone # that is not a prepaid phone or app
2 references from verifiable ladies you have seen in the past 12 months.
(Not necessary, but if you do not have any then I might ask you for additional information.)
Screening could take as little as an hour or up to a couple days to complete.
So please inquire early and leave as much time as possible before your requested date.
This information can be submitted via email or by filling out my Screening Form, located on my Contact page in the tabs above.
When we meet, I will need to see a government-issued ID such as a Driver's License, State ID, or Passport.
You do NOT need to have (or sign up for) a membership in any site or service!
Question: Do I have to send a pic or scan of my ID?
Response: No, not typically. The only time I might ask for it is if the details you've shared with me cannot be verified online. In today's day & age when virtually everyone has a traceable electronic footprint, this is unusual.
Question: I am a member of a verification site!
Do you need more from me?
Response: If you want to meet me, you MUST give me your real, full name.
Current RS-AVS (RS2K) members : Just tell me your full name, City & State, email address and the mobile phone number they have for you. When you text me to confirm our date, you must do so from that same phone number.
Please send me a PM (private message) or appointment request there.
Once we've agreed upon a day & time, your real full name is required to consider our date reserved.
I will not hold a time for our date until I have your name.
If you do not have an established history of Okays there then I might ask for additional references and information.
Question: But I have many excellent references/OKs! Do you really need my name?
Response: Sorry, but I really and truly will not accept any client who refuses to give me his full name. Real names and IDs are a must for me.
Absolutely no exceptions; period, exclamation point. (!)
Question: I am under 40 but very mature; will you make an exception for me?
Response: My age requirement has nothing to do with your maturity level and/or experience. If you are at least 35 and have references then maybe but that is the absolute youngest I will go..... I've tried giving gentlemen younger than that a chance, but have realized I'm simply not comfortable being with men in that age group.
It's not you, it's ME. Seriously.
Question: Hi Deb! I want to meet you!
Response: I'm sorry, but there's no one here named "Deb" heh heh heh.
Please call me Debra. Thank you. XOXOXOXO
Question: This will be my first time visiting a professional companion.
Will you see a newbie or first-timer? How do I do this?
Response: I am very newbie-friendly! The only issue is screening, but this is possible if you are willing to provide the personal information I ask.
Please read my website thoroughly and carefully prior to contacting me.
I will do my best to provide enough discreet information to help you out. IF you do not tell me that you are new to this hobby when scheduling, and you make some of the typical "newbie" blunders upon meeting, I might ask you to leave.
So advise me of this in advance! Thank you! xoxoxo
Question: May I make a clothing/outfit/shoe request?
In short, no. While I'm happy to don thigh-highs for you, that's the only request I'll grant. No, I won't wear specific items seen in my photos or your choice of footwear or undergarments.
I prefer to choose what makes ME feel sexy, from head to toe.
My favorite ensemble consists of a red cocktail dress with high heels.
Please note that I have many, many red dresses.... I do not wear the same ol' number for every date lol.
Question: Do you really have an assistant or is that just you?
Response: Her name is Jean. She is very real and often much nicer than I am lol.
She handles my email and screenings, as well as being a much-needed sounding board for whenever I want to vent or simply cry on her shoulder.
This business can feel very isolating, especially for touring ladies, and it's important to have someone in my corner.
Assistants are not supposed to handle ECCIE's or TER's Private Messaging system so if you reach out that way then you'll be corresponding directly with me.
I do handle messages send on Tryst but please try to email me instead of using that.
Because I typically don't make time during my workday to handle messages, those contact methods are not nearly as fast as dealing with Jean via email. ;-)
Question: When is your next visit to my city?
Response: The quickest way for you to learn such information is to check out my Calendar page, located in the tabs above.
You can also subscribe to my newsletter, to receive that information in your inbox! (Sign-up on my Contact or Calendar pages!)
Question: Do you do outcalls?
Response: Sorry, no.
Question: Will you vouch for me with another companion?
Response: Yes! Once we have had an enjoyable date, I am happy to provide a reference to another companion.
Question: I'm sick. You don't want me to keep our date, do you?
Response: If you are sick* then you must cancel. If it's within the window for a cancellation fee, you are on the hook for that.
When I have to cancel, I am subject to fees from my hotels , airlines, etc PLUS the money I spent on advertising is then wasted.
I don't cry to those businesses "but I'm SICK, I shouldn't have to pay!"
I was well aware of their policies at the time of my purchase or reservation.
My own policies are equally clear so please don't expect any exceptions from me, either. Thank you.
*This also applies if you were (or believe you were) exposed to Covid or in any way think you might have it.
Do NOT try to put it on me by saying, "you wouldn't want to risk getting this, would you?" or anything similar.
If you must quarantine, you must cancel, and I do not have a "Coronavirus Exemption" to my cancellation policy.
Question: Do you have any reviews?
Response: While there are currently reviews and reports of me still viewable on various websites, I am distancing myself from these platforms and asking to be de-listed/removed.
I was a 2-time Ms. TER (theeroticreview) and popular on a couple other boards too, but it's simply become too much.
Please respect my wishes and do not write public reviews or reports. Thank you.
Question: Do you have an upwards age limit? Am I too old for you?
Response: Absolutely not! I am completely comfortable meeting gentlemen in their 60s, 70s, and 80s. To date, my oldest gentleman friend was 89 but I'd be very pleased to entertain someone even more developed in years. xoxoxo
Question: It's past the deadline for your Advance Notice rate but will you please still give me your discount?
Not to be harsh, but absolutely not. Please don't ask or even hint at this.
Depending upon your wording, that alone can cause me to decide against meeting you. Ever.
Why? This discount is my gift to those who make my life less stressful by completing screening and scheduling with me in advance of my dates.
To give it to any bargain-hunter who comes along after the deadline would be unfair to my friends who arranged their own schedules days, or even weeks, prior to my availability.
The deadline for this is posted on my Calendar page, under every date & city.
It is usually 1 day prior to my first day in each location.
Question: What times do you have available?
Response: I'm sorry but it's far more efficient for you to simply tell me what times are possible for you. Then my assistant and I will do our best to accommodate your schedule. If you have a few windows of opportunity, tell me those clearly then I'll let you know which of those sync up with my availability.
Less back-and-forth messages this way, meaning a greater likelihood of scheduling.... especially if you're inquiring for a same-day meeting. ;-)
Question: Can I be your first date of the day?
Response: Yes, provided you schedule our date for my first availability of the day.
Example: My day begins at 7:00am; if you arrange our date for 7:00 or 7:30am then you will be my first caller of the day. :-)
Please, for your own sake, don't tell me you need to be my first date. It makes me think you believe I don't shower or adequately clean the room in between callers, or that you may have even more unsavory assumptions. So don't do that.
Question: What purpose does a real name serve? What will you do with it?
Response: Basically, I research you on the internet. In additon to the usual verification and checking the standard provider resources, I'll use LinkedIn, Facebook, the sex offender registry and others.
Yes, people who are on the sex offender registry, have a history of domestic violence and more, try to see companions. I prefer to avoid these characters.
The most common issue I have found, however, is that I either know, or am in some way connected to, the person in real life. I don't wish to wind up face-to-face with a former schoolmate, a neighbor, or anyone else from my personal life. Screening via real names helps me to avoid that too.
It is also my belief that the true predators who are seeking to do harm are unlikely to give me their real name.
I might be wrong, but I haven't been seriously hurt since I began requiring it.
Question: Will you tell me YOUR real name and show me your ID too?
Response: Do you need my real name to decide whether or not to see me? No?
Well there you go. Here's the way I see it: you get to view my naked photos and read many explicit reviews to see that I am an established, reputable provider.
You can also use that info to decide if I am what you seek.
My research and vetting process require your real name. Then when we meet I need to see your ID so I know that you actually are the person I agreed to meet.
So if you are also an adult service provider and have your nude pics all over the internet, along with some juicy tell-alls....... THEN I will do you the courtesy of sharing the same personal details I require from you.
Question: Do you offer dinner dates or overnights?
Response: I'm very sorry, but due to my travel schedule, this is only occasionally possible. Please inquire regarding specific days and locations.
(This IS available as part of a "Fly Me To You" or travel date.)
Rates for dinner engagements, FMTYs and overnights will be shared via email.
Question: Do you have a payment alternative to cash?
Response: Yes, if you would like to pay in advance.
I accept prepayment, cancellation fees and deposits for extended dates via specific gift cards, which can be purchased online or in retail stores.
I will give instructions for how to do this upon request. Please do not send electronic gift cards to my publicly published email address(es). I willl give you an alternate to use for this purpose. ;-)
If a refund of your deposit or prepayment must be made, it will only be done in the same manner it was received: in an email/online transaction.
Question: Do you offer massage/body rub or have a massage rate?
Response: Although it is absolutely my goal to relax you, and I will give a light back or neckrub upon request, I am not a FBSM provider and don't offer any separate/specific packages for it.
This is something which can be a part of regular companionship services only.
Question: Do you do have a Wish List or suggestions of gifts you'd like?
Response: Thank you for being so thoughtful! Yes, it can be found in the drop-down menu of my Etc tab above, under Mementos.
Question: Do you have any Birthday Discounts or Specials?
Response: Yes! For returning friends, visiting within 7 days of your birthdate, I give a gift of 30 minutes added to any date.
I'm sorry but this isn't an option for new clients.
Question: Do you do half-hour appointments?
Response: Sorry, no.
Question: Will you entertain a male-female couple?
Response: Yes, but only outside of the Chicagoland area.
Please understand that you must both submit all my required screening information.
Because I've learned from experience that an hour simply isn't enough time with couples, you must book at least 90 minutes. ;-)
Question: Do you offer ____________? (Insert metaphor, acronym or euphemism of your choice in the blank.)
Response: Sorry, but I do not answer such questions. If it is important to you that I answer these questions prior to arranging a date, then I am not the lady for you.
Those sorts of questions will not receive a reply.
Question: Do you offer Domination or any BDSM?
Response: Sorry, but no. I don't care if you think your fantasy/request is an easy or simple one OR if you believe I'd be good at Domination.
Don't ask and DO NOT send me scenarios, writings, etc to try to persuade me.
The answer is NO.
Question: Will you see a solo woman?
Response: Yes. I am open to meeting singles and couples of all gender identities and sexual orientations.
Question: Are those real?
Response: Well, they're not a figment of your imagination and I don't stuff my bra. LOL. Beyond that, although some can tell the difference and some cannot, they are enhanced.
Question: Will you see an African American client?
Response: Yes. I do not discriminate against any ethnicity, race, religion, sexuality or gender identity. If you are over 35, pass my screening, and I feel comfortable with everything you've shared during preliminary communication, then we can meet. :-)
Question: How old are you? What is your age?
Response: I prefer not to give that out. I'm somewhere between 40 and 55.
Some people think I look younger and some opinions place me smack in the middle of that age bracket. I've learned that even when I'm completely honest and upfront about my age, there are those who firmly believe me to be either younger or older than what I say. So now.... I don't say.
Question: Do you offer dates with another provider?
Response: Sorry, but no.
Question: Is your incall location a private residence or a hotel?
Response: I'm a hotel girl.... far less maintenance! LOL!